I read a cool passage about Openness today - about being a YES to whatever is happening, even when it's not our preference, if we have to experience it, find the YES in it somewhere, even if it hurts, savour the exact quality of what hurts, every ripple, colour, texture of it, dance with it, become a ninja expert in this feeling - then we Open to it and it no longer controls us, then we feel it deeper and it can do it's genius work.